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7^th November 2023

I often talk about the space between an event and a person’s reaction. I imagine a crowbar gradually extending it. The space of course, is self awareness. It is the space created when we realise we are stuck in an old pattern, when we realise the intensity of our...

21^st August 2022

In all my work with clients, the work on boundaries abounds. My work with children, adolescents, adults, older adults, parents, employees, spouses. You name it – boundaries come up time and time again.

So what are boundaries? Before I attempt to answer that – full...

5t^h August 2022

Very few things in life are linear. Change and recovery are no exception.

When we are making progress in therapy, in life, in parenting, in addiction, in relationships, in health matters, in work – it can feel really good. It IS really great. However, when the bumps come...

23^rd July 2022

For many people, they grew up worrying about their parent/parents/caregiver. They wanted to make them happy, make them smile, make them stop worrying. Of course, this is by definition, impossible, it is an impossible task for a child to hold this much control and authority over an...

Now don’t get me wrong, THINKING is critical. How we think can change everything. BUT this post is about the slightly less discussed DOING component of change; because sometimes all the rational thoughts in the world don’t FEEL true.

We might know that it is...

15^th July 2022

Often when it comes to mental health, people don’t know where to start. Problems can seem insurmountable, ridiculously complex and overlapping, painfully enduring and stuck. Indeed, this is what brings many people to treatment.

So what can you do right now? At home? As you...